Talking about past abuse in therapy doesn’t necessarily help people to move beyond it.
It is well known by therapists that adults who experienced abuse or neglect during childhood often spend years in therapy emoting and talking about their past traumas, yet they still have trouble moving beyond these past traumas. This is because people who were traumatized while their neural systems were developing are often “hard-wired” to interpret events in a negative way. Adults who were abused in childhood often have poor self-images, an ongoing internal dialogue of negative self-talk, and chronic anxiety and/or depression. This often remains the case no matter how successful these people have become in their present lives, and no matter how much “talking” therapy they have done.
Adults who were abused in childhood often react in patterned, dysfunctional, and sometimes self-destructive ways.
Adults who experienced childhood trauma often continue to be “triggered” in their present lives. When people are “triggered”, they often react in old patterned ways which are not helpful to the current situation and sometimes are harmful. Continuing in these repetitive and self-destructive patterns only makes the person feel worse and more hopeless.
Lifespan Integration therapy heals deeply and completely without re-traumatizing.
Finally there is a therapy that can change all this without re-traumatizing. Lifespan Integration is a very gentle method which works on a deep neural level to change patterned responses and outmoded defensive strategies. LI therapy helps people connect unpleasant feelings and dysfunctional patterns with the memories of the past events from which these feelings and strategies originated. Making these connections at a deep level of the body-mind “re-sets” the neural system so that it is more in line with the current life situation. This “re-setting” happens very rapidly for most people. After LI therapy, people find themselves spontaneously reacting to current stressors in more age appropriate ways. After several sessions of LI, clients have reported that they feel better about life, are more self-accepting, and are better able to enjoy their intimate relationships.