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Do You Suffer From Sexual Problems?

The most common sexual problems are caused by underlying anxiety.

For men these include impotence (erectile dysfunction) and premature ejaculation.

For women the most common problems are vaginismus and failure to reach orgasm.

Hypnotherapy is successful at resolving these problems. Due to the extremely personal nature of these type problems they are often left unresolved or people find it very difficult to approach someone about treatment.

Impotence/Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction or impotence, is the persistent or recurrent inability to attain or maintain an erection sufficient to complete sexual intercourse or another chosen sexual activity. It is very common and affects at least one in every ten men.

Men with impotence may feel angry or guilty, and become depressed. Many lose interest in sex and relationships often suffer.

It usually results from stress, tiredness, anxiety, or excessive alcohol consumption. Worrying about it may set the scene for a more persistent problem due to “fear of failure”. It is therefore also often linked to Social Anxiety or phobias.

Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation (PE) is characterised by a lack of voluntary control over ejaculation. This is one of the more common sexual problems that men present with and it affects approximately 25-40% of males. It is when they ejaculate, or ‘come’ too quickly, often before completing sexual activity and sometimes before any physical stimulation has taken place it can occur.

This problem often produces stress and a lack of confidence in love-making, feelings of inadequacy and frustration, and worries regarding fulfillment of the partner.

Generally it is believed that early sexual experiences are important in the shaping of future ejaculatory habits. The condition can be associated with performance anxiety, depression, sexual repression and lack of confidence and other unsatisfactory early sexual experiences may contribute to establishing a pattern of rapid ejaculation.


Vaginismus is the physical or psychological condition that affects a woman’s ability to engage in any form of vaginal penetration, including sexual intercourse, insertion of objects such as tampons. This is presumed to be the result of an involuntary vaginal muscle spasm, which often makes any kind of vaginal penetration, including sexual intercourse painful or in some cases impossible.

Women with vaginismus suffer embarrassment, anxiety and anger. This condition can occur for a variety of reasons. It is usually considered to be a conditioned response (something that is learned) and may result from the association of sexual activity with pain. Phobic reactions to the anticipation of pain could lead to an avoidance of intercourse.

Psychological causes of vaginismus include:

  • Belief that the vagina is too small.
  • Negative sexual thoughts (thinking sex is wrong or that sex will be painful).
  • Previous sexual abuse.
  • Vaginal trauma (childbirth, episiotomy).
  • Painful conditions of the vagina and surrounding area.
  • Painful first intercourse.
  • Relationship problems.
  • Fear of pregnancy.
  • Strict religious beliefs.

Inability to orgasm

Many women suffer with failure to orgasm. According to Relate, around one in four women will have problems reaching an orgasm at some stage during their life, while 25-35% may have never experienced an orgasm. Consistent failure to achieve orgasm after normal and adequate sexual stimulation may be troubling for some women and their partners. You may feel that you are a failure or inadequate in some way. The stress may build with wanting to achieve an orgasm the next time you have sex; and this in turn may lead to a lack of orgasm, and so the cycle can repeat itself.

Both vaginismus and failure to orgasm tend to be psychological in nature, caused by psychological conflicts or very emotional experiences from the past. Therapy with Nigel will allow you to resolve and process these experiences in a safe environment addressing the root cause and helping to resolve it.

In addition, learning about your thinking habits The Thrive Programme will allow you to understand why you are reacting in this way and providing you with suitable techniques which will empower you to feel in control and preventing the problems from occurring again.

Treatment with Nigel at Portsmouth Hypnotherapy can help to resolve your problems.

To contact Nigel for a confidential discussion, or to book your free 30 minute Initial Consultation please contact Nigel on mobile 07702 042220


There will be a nominal charge of £20.00 if the initial consultation lasts more than 30 minutes. Skype consultations also available.

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